There's always a moment in your life when you know things will never be the same....and for some of us...we identify that moment just before it happens or as it's happening. It could be that look from your lover when you know that they more than just like you. Or it could be the goosebumps on your skin when you know something bad is about to happen and change your life forever. It could be the long awaited moment when you know your child is about to take their first unassisted steps....you just know!
It could be the moment when you know your life is about to come crashing down around you. Shattered into a million pieces, making you wonder if you can recover, recoup, revive. These moments help define us...it's not the moment itself, but how we deal with it. What are the steps to recovery, recoup and revival? How do you face it?
Do you reflect and self-analyze and wonder what YOU could have done that would have resulted in a different outcome? Do you deflect and lay the blame on one person alone, believing you are the only one wronged? hurting? made the right moves? Do you listen with open ears, open mind and open heart and try to understand what's going on in the minds of those involved? Do you shut yourself down, close yourself off, suffering in your isolation and not realizing that people are human, people make mistakes, and people learn from them?
Me...I self-analyze. In fact, as my friends will attest to, I over analyze. I wonder what I did to perpetuate the situation. What could I have done to make it different? How did that other person(people) feel? What were they thinking at the "moment"?
The gut-wrenching, life ending hurt eventually dissipates and you move on...you have to.
How do you want to be defined during "the moment"?
